I’ve always thought new years resolutions were silly and superficial since they are typically just statements without real plans associated with them. So instead of an annual weight loss goal that I’m pretty sure I’d ditch in a few weeks anyway, I decided to start a new tradition and write a letter from myself to myself. I wanted this letter to be constant motivation for me throughout the year and filled with reminders for the person I strive to be and pray daily that I’m on my way to become. I’ll be honest, it felt a little crazy writing to myself but taking time to self reflect, prioritize and gear up for year ahead was pretty darn powerful. I’m definitely going outside of my comfort zone here on this blog, but if any of this inspires or motivates you, well then it’s totally worth it. Here were some of the the highlights from my 2016 letter:
Stop stressing and worrying because it’s absolutely, totally, 100% pointless. Instead, pray for guidance and direction from God and trust that He is always directing your steps. Find peace in the fact that you have no permanent burdens because Jesus loves you enough to eternally conquer all of those for you. Hold up. On second thought, do a little more than “find peace” in that gigantic fact that I squeezed into a tiny sentence. Jump up and down, do some cartwheels, praise Him, and for the love of cheese tell as many people as you can about it so they can experience His love, peace and salvation too.
Please spend your time more wisely this year. The fact that you somehow have time at night to keep up with celebrity gossip AND thoroughly check three social networks looking at updates from people you barely know anymore is just no parts good. Remind yourself that this time will quickly add up to days, weeks, months you could’ve spent reading books, growing relationships, helping others, or learning something new. Oh and while we’re on the topic plllllease put that iPhone down when your playing with your kids. Be present wherever you are and soak up every moment God gives you on this earth.
Grow! Grow your skill set and knowledge in your career, grow as a wife, mother, daughter, sister, friend and coworker, grow your love for strangers, and Jamie, it’s finally time to make some bigger leaps in your growth as a Christian. You’ve been a big ol’ “taker” for a while and that’s OK. You needed it. You needed to start learning God’s word and spend some time watching and learning from “the givers”. But now people need you to give. So start asking God to use your skills and talents to help others and be open to the opportunities He puts in front of you.
Remember it’s through trials and hard times that we typically do our best growing. This is a hard one to write because I cringe at the thought of any pain and sadness in life. I pray everyday for all those around you, but if you experience difficult times this year remember what God put in your heart when Jeremy got sick last year: Trust in Me. It’s through the trials that you learn and that you grow into the person I want you to become. Without that experience you wouldn’t have had a reason to pray several times a day for two weeks straight… to call people and ask them to pray… and you wouldn’t had the chance to watch God answer those prayers. You witnessed the power of prayer in that experience and perhaps your first grown-up test of walking in faith.
Find new ways to show Jeremy how much you love and respect him. He is the bread to your butter, the jam on your biscuit, the honey in your hive… and things just got weird. Sorry. I’ll stick to carb metaphors. But you get my point. There is no end to your love for him, so when parenting little babies clouds that sweet butter, jam and honey, remember to focus on what makes him feel loved and respected in your marriage. He is such a good husband and daddy and deserves to hear daily how proud you are of him for all he does for your family.
Lastly and on a bit of a lighter note, learn to embrace the noisy, very colorful, always out of their labeled bin, house of toys. You’ve become a neat freak to the max sister. I’m kind of worried about you.. I mean me. Wait. I’m confused. But seriously, just start embracing the insane amount of plastic superhero’s, dinosaurs and doll babies that currently exist in every square inch of your home. I can barely say this without tears but one day you will live in a house without toys and little people asking you for love and help. Do your best to keep the funk at bay so that the kids don’t get sick from licking the toilet seat but then give yourself a break on the clutter and whatever you do stop.buying.storage.bins. When you look back at this season of life, I highly doubt you will remember the messy rooms and dirty clothes. Ok.. maybe the dirty clothes. Some things you just can’t unsee. But I think you will spend more time swimming around in the memories of their cute giggles and those sweet, sweet gummy grins.