Apr 5, 2013
Jamie

Peace Out Perfection

I had a bit of an epiphany last week, as Jer, Dylan and I were recovering from the bubonic plague (on the forreals, I’m pretty sure we had the norovirus…) and a horrible cold. This 2 week sickness got my “balance” all out of wack. You know what I’m talking about, right? That balance you feel when you’re giving work, home, the fam, friends, etc. just the right amount of yourself to keep everything and everyone chugging along and happy. Then when one gets way off it just all comes crashing down, leaving 6 piles of laundry, 100+ unread emails, no food in the house, and you taking your kid to daycare dressed for “wacky day” when it.isn’t.dress.wacky.day.yet. True story.

Ok, back to my epiphany. So as I started getting my life and house back in order, I realized that I’m just way too frumpy and unhappy when things aren’t “perfect”. I seem to not be able to relax at home these days unless everything is clean and in it’s place… which yes, means I never really relax, which yes, is extremely exhausting. So I’ve decided enough with that. I’m done. I’m throwing in the towel on perfection, because it’s just not obtainable and is something if I start chasing, I’ll always chase.

I absolutely still recommend putting in the hard work of getting yourself, your life and your home organized, because it will instantly make you feel lighter and happier but I guess what I’m saying here is let’s let go of pursing “spotless” and make a little room for the dust bunnies, dirty windows, frozen pizzas and blog typos. When we’re old women, will we remember our spotless homes or will we remember the times we spent tickling bellies to extract that oh-so-sweet baby giggle or the way their sweet baby breath smelled when they slept on our chests during their naptime, instead of their crib (so that we could get laundry or dusting done).

No More Perfect MomsI still have a lot of work ahead of me to really master this way of thinking but recently came across a new book, “No More Perfect Moms” by Jill Savage, that I’m hoping with help me along this journey. I saw this quote on the review and was instantly hooked: “While we’re pursuing perfection, we’re missing out on the most precious parts of life: the laughter of silliness, the joy of spontaneity, the lessons found in failure, and the freedom found in grace.”

I also love that this book is faith based, since in “my book” (pun intended!) there is only one form of true perfection and it’s through Him that I have this amazing life.

As I always do, I’ve been collecting some inspiration on Pinterest to help me with this new state of mind. I’m thinking one of these might need some prime wall real estate to keep me honest:

I'm Rocking My Baby and Babies Don't Keep

 

Never get so busy making a living that you forget to make a life

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xoxo,

jamie

9 Comments

  • The “cleaning and scrubbing” rhyme was cross-stitched and hung in your nursery when you were a baby!
    In “my book” you will always be perfect and it has nothing to do with organization or dust bunnies.
    LOVE U – Mom

  • Another comment – about the old women since I am now one – you don’t remember spotless or clean because even as a old woman you still have dust bunnies and spotty windows. What you have is memories of your little ones laughing, running, jumping from the stair landing to the tile (which is cracked and covered by a rug) and height marks on the ends of the doors. You may even have memories of a teenager whose bedroom door remains broken from being slammed one too many times. You have the money to replace the door but it holds a special place in your heart.

    • mom… you made me cry! LOVE you!

  • Great thoughts! Thank you for sharing. I work FT and I have an 8 month-old. I also have a whole lot of life changes happening at once… this is fantastic advice! :)

    • Thanks Keeley!

  • You’ve found the secret, give up on that and you’ll feel much better. Emily Ley has a print in her shop (www.emilyley.com) that says “I will hold myself to a standard of Grace not Perfection.”

    I bought this print last year to remind myself of this same thought. Give yourself some grace, HE isn’t wanting us to be perfect but simply to come to him.

    Hope your family is all feeling better.

    • Thanks Andrea!

  • Hello! I absolutely adore your blog! I stumbled upon it a few weeks ago- (late night restless web surfing as I am in my third trimester waiting on my first to arrive.) I have pinned numerous posts of yours since, including all of the organizational ones- brilliant ideas!
    I too am nesting away and trying to prepare as much as possible for her coming arrival in May. I can’t tell you how many times I have”organized” her closet, researched a better way, and reworked it (about to head up there one final time.) I really love this piece on perfection. It seems a lot of bloggers have been posting on the topic lately, but more from the aspect of, “hey I am not perfect, but my blog may look like I appear that way.” I love your approach, because it is from a religious one, selfless, and focusing on the aspect of missing out on the baby changes. As I nest and clean, and tidy and prep, this is one of the things I am mentally nesting for as well. To soak up even the latest nights, poopy blowouts and teething to come- because it will all be over before I know it. Thanks for the tip on the book too!
    Cheers!

    • Thanks so much Glorianna and congrats!!!! Have fun nesting :)

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